Home life is different because most people can view a team relationship coming to an end with equanimity. Naturally it is sad when anything worthwhile comes to an end; but generally with the demise of the team relationship, one's integrity is not affected. One still feels a whole person; one does not feel dismembered. On the other hand most husbands and wives, even if they quarrel, view the demise of their marriage relationship with dread. It was something they hoped would be permanent; and when either physical death, or family discord threaten to bring it to an end, seemingly permanently, naturally most people are afraid. It is peculiarly significant that the Church, which preaches about a pie in the sky life after death, has no words of comfort for the husband who wants to know if he will meet his wife again after he dies. He is given the somewhat chilly reply that the Church is concerned with eternal life, and God should be enough; in spite of the fact that the Church has no solution to offer to the classic problem of how to reconcile God and a wife, in this world.

However as I pointed out in Chapter 13, a man's fear of death is only…